On Becoming a Better Man, Human, and Father


I love washing dishes


I enjoy washing dishes and cleaning the kitchen after eating. Seeing the kitchen and dining area after it’s all done is satisfying. This first became a “thing” when I read an article by Leo Babauta in 2010 that impacted the way I approach all the mundane but necessary tasks of the day. wash your bowl “Have you eaten your rice porridge? Then you had better wash your bowl.” It’s become the default...

Lessons in Scarcity After Divorce


That scarcity taught me to appreciate and maximize everything. I only had a few hours with them.  It scared me straight since there was little to no time to waste. It’s almost as if there’s a countdown every weekend. Tick-tock. Tick-tock. Tick-tock… Every conversation mattered. Every choice mattered. Every activity mattered. A little dramatic, I suppose, but it kept us engaged...

My Marriage Was My Biggest & Best Failure


My marriage was my best and biggest failure. It sounds so dramatic, but it’s true.  Growing up, I always wanted to be married. It’s heavily ingrained in my culture, and I was looking forward to having my own family. My mom was putting a ton of pressure on me to get married. NOW! I was 25 and getting older every year. I was a wee bit desperate. I was clueless about dating and how to be...

On Becoming a Better Man, Human, and Father