They can shoot a basketball with decent form. They throw and catch a football (often better than most boys). They can write with power and vulnerability, step on stage, and share their truth with a room full of people. They can draw, paint, shoot, and edit. I'll stop there.
I hated smiling in photos. I didn't like my smile and made sure never to do it. I felt like I looked like an idiot.
It's not hard to avoid smiling if you're unhappy with your life. It was the last year of my marriage, and I was going through old photos of myself with my daughters.