On Becoming a Better Man, Human, and Father

My Ex Upgraded After Me

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My ex-girlfriend upgraded after me. I’m sure all my exes upgraded.

At least, I hope they did. I hope they found the love and companionship that they were looking for and upgraded.

Isn’t that the point of it all? To continue learning and growing from our previous relationships.

With each new relationship, we learn more about ourselves. We discover what we like and dislike, what we will tolerate and not tolerate, what’s essential, and what’s insignificant.

Armed with this new information, we should start upgrading in our next relationship.

Along the way, we should all be upgrading the way we think and operate, upgrading our operating system. If we let go of the ego, it’s not a difficult upgrade.

The only way to learn “how to be in a relationship” is by being “in a relationship.”

It’s like learning to ride a bike; you will never learn by reading a book about it. You have to ride the bike and accept that you will fall on your ass over and over again.

If you’re still dating the same type of person today that you dated in your 20’s, then you might be doing something wrong.

This is why it doesn’t bother me to know that my exes have upgraded. On the contrary, I’m happy for them. So here’s a little secret.

I upgraded too.

I’ve accidentally matured, learned, and fell into a beautiful relationship with a marvelous woman.

I think I finally learned how to ride a bike. And I can’t say for certain, but I’m pretty damn sure my girlfriend upgraded as well.

By Teevee Aguirre
On Becoming a Better Man, Human, and Father